I got the hee bee jee bees tonight. I am restless and need some quiet and my roommate it moving about the house talking on the phone. She is always ranting about some injustice in her life. This has only happened a dozen times or so but it makes me want to leave the house.
She is new to the program and I met her through my own sponsor and for the most part we are ships passing in the night but not tonight.
I remember when I lived own my soap box about how unfair life had been towards me. How nothing but bad things happened to me and everyone else had it good. It only takes a few meetings to realize the second part isn't at all true. Even hearing the worst stories didn't phase me in the beginning I was too caught up in the drama of my own story to even acknowledge that other people had problems too.
I get where she is coming from and have to remember baby steps. I had to finally stop talking about how nothing in my life worked before my life started working. Ask and you shall receive I think that works for good things as well as bad. If you say "nothing good ever happens to me" then some how life tries to make that come true so you will be right.
In the program we say fake it until you make it. This use to totally piss me off. Are you telling me I am suppose to just put on a happy face and pretend that everything is just fine. I realized that really this just means to not let your emotions control you ever minute. It is okay to just let go and just do something other than dwell on the problems in your life.
I use to be so analytical. I thought I could think myself out of every situation but my best thinking kept me lost in the problem. I have to admit I have lost big chunks of my life to analyses. I was drawn to the alcoholic situation because I was a problem solver. It took me down because I couldn't solve it but I kept trying. A little tweak here a little there until I was bat crazy.
I was bat crazy later all by myself not an alcoholic in sight. Life can't be solved by thinking. People can't be solved by poking or tweaking and that includes myself. You have to just sit there and see the moment for just what it is a moment a moment that will pass. It isn't permanent unless you want to hold on to it in your mind and relive it over and over.
Why do we get stuck on the bad stuff? I have lived my whole life around the story of my childhood and how I was damaged. This story made me insecure and a slave to my emotions and sometimes to other people. I thought the best I could hope for was to just keep working on myself. This made my life still about the past.
I realized I had to just let go and see that my mind was the real problem. I had to see that my story had become me and without it I would have felt like nothing. But that wasn't true because without it I could make a new story.
I can't explain how free I feel now without my story. Even in my last post about my parents it was written without the pain of something I didn't get from them or something I lost. It was just a story I put together from my memories I don't need it to be anything more.
These are my rantings for the evening. Thank God she has finally gone to bed it's almost midnight. Sweet dreams.
Hugs to you....
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